tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7042178429812658517.post8174295895024974171..comments2024-01-14T05:25:06.236-06:00Comments on The Macs: sonogram day {the real story}the mcclenahanshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03669168107355178867noreply@blogger.comBlogger140125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7042178429812658517.post-1982085437106640362011-06-04T22:51:43.041-05:002011-06-04T22:51:43.041-05:00Jess,
I recently found your blog and I am SO grate...Jess,<br />I recently found your blog and I am SO grateful I did! Your relationship with Christ is inspiring and even in these first posts that I've read, I'm in awe of your wisdom! Your faith amidst trial is incredibly inspiring. Cora's story brought me to tears, from a heart ripping mother's point of view, but then rejoicing in all God has done and continues to do through His servant, Cora. Then I read this post and I feel like we have such kindred spirits! Soul sisters in a way! I wrote this blog post a few months ago when I found out I was having my THIRD boy! <br />http://www.zielkehut.com/blog/2010/07/16/the-only-female/ <br />So I share your heart...I LOVE my son Simon. I cried all night long, sobbed actually. Not because I didn't love my son, of course I did. But I was realizing that I wouldn't have a daughter (my plan) and was embracing God's plan for me. It has been here, right here in the center of His will for me that I have experienced ultimate joy. There are still tough moments but ultimately, I rest in His best. :) <br />Much love to your family!<br />JenniJennifer Zielkehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00245585996298933541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7042178429812658517.post-66371941685054847822011-05-29T08:01:28.349-05:002011-05-29T08:01:28.349-05:00You have nothing to be sorry for, Jess. I am touc...You have nothing to be sorry for, Jess. I am touched and grateful that you shared your words. The folks at the sonogram did not see you as selfish, they saw you as a mom that has suffered the unimaginable. How could your emotions not be high!? I bet that cry did you & your husband good in the long run. It had to happen. It makes sense it happened when you found out something so very real about this new life coming into your home. You amaze me. Keep sharing. Keep taking those awesome pictures. Keep your creativity churning. Keep the faith. You help keep me going. Love from Minneapolis. MN not KS :)Sherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03830039931411853400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7042178429812658517.post-33370400541626504002011-05-21T01:24:34.750-05:002011-05-21T01:24:34.750-05:00I just found your blog through Breezy Acres Farm. ...I just found your blog through Breezy Acres Farm. I love all your creativity! As I looked at your blog, I was saddened to hear about your precious little girl. I am so glad you have God's comfort and strength in your life! She was so beautiful. <br />I can only imagine how you felt on this sono day! My sono tech asked something like, "What are you hoping for?".....well, I had a boy, so I wanted a girl....but that's kind of an akward question b/c then you feel stupid when she says it's a boy! Anyway, I have two sweet brothers who love each other so much! That day is so high on emotion...it would be really hard not to cry! It's like you're holding your breath, and then it all comes out after you find out...even if you don't understand all of it. May God bless you and your growing family!!kris982https://www.blogger.com/profile/16785762579822462105noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7042178429812658517.post-44731055392568122972011-05-17T14:16:36.467-05:002011-05-17T14:16:36.467-05:00Jess
I thank you for writing about your true feeli...Jess<br />I thank you for writing about your true feelings and you have encouraged me through your writings. I too am a grieving mother and sometimes wonder if anyone else does this, burst into tears at odd times. Its nice to know and hear that others feel the same way. I miss my son dearly and I can relate to your bitter sweet moment.<br />Psalm 119:28Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7042178429812658517.post-86979074935364806072011-05-16T17:12:20.567-05:002011-05-16T17:12:20.567-05:00What?! I've been following your blog for like ...What?! I've been following your blog for like a year, and I miss the preggie posts?! How on earth did that happen?<br /><br />Congradulations! I had no idea you were pregnant! I've been wondering if you wanted another, that's so awesome!<br />Off to read the post now. Congrats mama!Ashley J.http://fitforaprincessinc.blogger.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7042178429812658517.post-39022709835495780782011-05-14T18:04:55.026-05:002011-05-14T18:04:55.026-05:00Hi,
I just came across your blog today and read th...Hi,<br />I just came across your blog today and read through your old posts. So sorry for your loss. And so happy that you are about to have two healthy little boys. I just wanted to share that I am due with my 5th on Sept. 27. I have a 14 yr old girl and 6, 5 & 2 yr old boys. I just found out this week that I'm having another boy. I desperately have wanted a little for the last three pregnancies. To say the least, I was heartbroken. LOVE my baby and wouldn't change him. But this is my last pregnancy so I am having a really hard time knowing that I will never have a girl with my husband. I too cried right after the ultrasound and in the doctors office. I felt bad about it but I also couldn't help it. I'm ecstatic that this baby is healthy. But there is heartache. Hopefully my loved ones will just understand where I'm coming from and don't make me feel bad for my feelings. Good luck in the rest of your pregnancy...thanks for listening. :)Jennifer O. Romeo and Maehttp://romeandmaeblog.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7042178429812658517.post-79498776246005665442011-05-10T22:32:12.468-05:002011-05-10T22:32:12.468-05:00I am sorry I am just now commenting. Way too far b...I am sorry I am just now commenting. Way too far behind on my blog reader!<br /><br />I just wanted to say that your feelings are completely valid. I don't think there is a soul on this earth who would fault you for how you felt on this day.<br /><br />I also wanted to let you know that I'm a mama to two boys born 21 months apart. It has been an amazing journey. Unlike others I never really had the strong desire to raise a daughter. I always wanted sons. But sometimes there is a pain in my heart knowing I won't get to have that special mother/daughter relationship (I'm pretty sure we're two and done).<br /><br />But as you already know, God has a divine plan for your life and you never know what he has in store for you as a mother.<br /><br />Congrats again!mollyhttp://www.adayinmollywood.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7042178429812658517.post-17850165089876710932011-05-10T09:48:45.716-05:002011-05-10T09:48:45.716-05:00I know there is always risk when you have the cour...I know there is always risk when you have the courage to be vulnerable and truthful. It seems to me the risk pays off largely for those reading your words. Thank you once again for letting others peek into your journey, as your words speak to many. It touches me deeply to once again watch the fierce love a mom has for her children. And as the mama of three boys all I can say is, "hold on!!" :) Love, Carrie M.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7042178429812658517.post-22975995638568982532011-05-10T01:13:27.918-05:002011-05-10T01:13:27.918-05:00I am the mommy to 3 little girls and when I was pr...I am the mommy to 3 little girls and when I was pregnant with our 3rd, I was SO positive that I was going to have a boy. When we had the u/s and found out the sex, I had a similar breakdown after and felt the same emotions... You definitely are not alone!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7042178429812658517.post-41234167414688858952011-05-08T16:31:00.737-05:002011-05-08T16:31:00.737-05:00There's so many emotions during this time, why...There's so many emotions during this time, why not a few more on sono day? I always wanted a boy, but got 3 girls instead. I completely understand your feelings. Trust that this is what God wants. I know you'll love both of your boys with all your heart, just like I love all my girls. You never know... maybe there's a chance for #4... :o)<br /><br />Hugs,<br />AmberRaising Koehnshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15295588742056508229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7042178429812658517.post-39789532004409790852011-05-08T15:51:49.294-05:002011-05-08T15:51:49.294-05:00Jess, I too was dissapointed for you when I saw it...Jess, I too was dissapointed for you when I saw it was a boy. I know you want that connection with a daughter. Maybe it's still to come, God only knows!! In the meantime you'll be the best Mommy to your children!! Thank you for your honesty, and using your situation to help show others how to turn to God with their grief. You are an inspiration!!Catherine Boozerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01416046938871331140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7042178429812658517.post-51383884654036132392011-05-08T01:09:00.293-05:002011-05-08T01:09:00.293-05:00Thanks so much for your honesty, Jess. Yes, somet...Thanks so much for your honesty, Jess. Yes, sometimes God's goodness is not what we expect, or even hope for. Praying for you as you continue to work through your feelings and welcome that sweet baby boy into your family.Shaun and Courtneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13628040168436019030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7042178429812658517.post-61602189369511210752011-05-07T09:44:04.094-05:002011-05-07T09:44:04.094-05:00I am a regular reader but have never commented bef...I am a regular reader but have never commented before. I felt the same way when I found out my second child was a boy. I wanted that mother/daughter connection so bad. I was so ashamed because I sat and cried even though the sonogram showed another beautiful healthy little boy. But when he was born the joy was unbelievable and now my kids are 19 and 16 (and two more kids who came later who are 15 and 7). I loved watching my boys grow up together. The funny thing is, my second son is the sweetest kid in my family, kind, caring, and I can't imagine my family without him. There is a very special purpose for this little boy who's coming into your life! Its going to be so exciting for you guys to see what that is! Enjoy the ride! Boys are sooooo fun!!!Tamminoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7042178429812658517.post-40989186629611841802011-05-07T09:23:18.028-05:002011-05-07T09:23:18.028-05:00Jess, I've been reading your blog for a long t...Jess, I've been reading your blog for a long time, but have never commented. When I first saw that you were having another boy my immediate thought was that I bet you longed to experience having a little girl in your home again. I would imagine that what you really long for is to have Cora AND her two brothers.<br /><br />Thank you for sharing your heart so beautifully with your readers once again. No one doubts that you don't love your unborn son fiercely.<br /><br />I've hesitated to mention this and pray that it doesn't seem insensitive. But, my personal experience has been one of being blessed with children both by birth and adoption. Children are wondrous, precious gifts regardless of how God chooses to bring them into your life. <br /><br />In many cultures little girls are not as valued as sons and are even discarded at birth. Just as your heart longs for another daughter there are little girls who desperately need a loving mommy and daddy. I do not presume to know the will of God for your family, but adoption is a valid way to build or extend your family and often affords the opportunity to select the gender of your child. Just thought I'd throw that out there. <br /><br />Your precious family is in my prayers! Can't wait to meet Cora and Levi's baby brother! Our family is excitedly awaiting the birth of another grandchild in early October, #9 for us. They're still debating finding out the gender.Ellen Dunawaynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7042178429812658517.post-83800025489254312442011-05-07T08:01:44.523-05:002011-05-07T08:01:44.523-05:00You are so brave to be so honest...thank you for s...You are so brave to be so honest...thank you for sharing your heart with all of us. I have been reading your blog since your story with Cora began and I have sat at my computer and cried many tears while reading about your sweet Cora. Even today as I read your most recent post I was crying. I have never been in your situation so I can't imagine the emotions that hit you at times like that. We lost a baby almost 8 years ago and I still get hit with waves of emotions at very strange times. I'm so excited for your family and your new baby boy!! God bless you and your precious family.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14120130602895782087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7042178429812658517.post-763660298780375722011-05-06T22:35:45.171-05:002011-05-06T22:35:45.171-05:00Thank you for being real. This is a tough issue.
...Thank you for being real. This is a tough issue. <br /><br />I have twin boys who are 3 years old. I always thought I would have girls. Hubby is happy with 2 children but I would like to try 1 more time to see if we can have a girl. We are "infertile" and need IVF to get pregnant so it's not such an easy decision as it is for some people. Money is a big factor. <br /><br />I may never get my girl so this post resonated with me. There is no pink in my house right now. It's all about trains and trucks. I love my boys fiercely but I long for a girl. <br /><br />I trust in God. I believe you will have another girl in your family. Just not yet. <br /><br />Congratulations on a healthy baby boy in utero!<br /><br />CarrieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7042178429812658517.post-43307363739331379132011-05-06T18:45:00.941-05:002011-05-06T18:45:00.941-05:00Jess, U R AMAZING! I just love your honest heart....Jess, U R AMAZING! I just love your honest heart. Thank you for sharing this and being so open. You are such a great example to follow of one who follows Jesus so well.<br /><br />I love you!<br /><br />HeatherHeatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14982458740878124975noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7042178429812658517.post-59863163742811789822011-05-06T18:33:44.807-05:002011-05-06T18:33:44.807-05:00Just wanted to let you know that of course we unde...Just wanted to let you know that of course we understand how you felt!! Boys are amazing (I actually consider myself a 'boy mom' bc I had a boy first) and we all know how much you love and cherish your sweet Levi but it's so understandable that you would want a little girl in your life again. I am praying for your heart as it has to continue to heal and re-heal...the wounds are deep. God is so honored in your honesty. Bless you for sharing your heart with us. And congrats again on brothers!!Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00821734247554320034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7042178429812658517.post-70900148261181865582011-05-06T16:57:48.494-05:002011-05-06T16:57:48.494-05:00Although I've never lost a child, I had a simi...Although I've never lost a child, I had a similar reaction to my second boy. We waited til his birth to find out the gender and I thought I'd be fine either way, regardless of if it was a girl or boy - but I was crying like crazy right after he was born, and I felt so guilty for that! I guess I just really thought he would be a girl. Of course I'm happy now, but I think that if we have a third, I want to find out the gender before he/she is born so that I'm not crying at the birth (in case it is a third boy)!<br /> <br />I am happy for you - you will love having 2 little boys :)Jasminehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16140899812432639916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7042178429812658517.post-28327821424141527002011-05-06T13:22:51.326-05:002011-05-06T13:22:51.326-05:00Brothers are a wonderful thing ... our boys are no...Brothers are a wonderful thing ... our boys are now ages 11 and 9 and the very best of friends. You will be blessed beyond measure. Congratulations!Mariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08014735635396295659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7042178429812658517.post-6860732341493092052011-05-06T13:19:03.875-05:002011-05-06T13:19:03.875-05:00Joel is a wise man. God IS good. All the time. A...Joel is a wise man. God IS good. All the time. And knows exactly what you are feeling.<br /><br />BlessingsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7042178429812658517.post-74196667091573627972011-05-06T12:59:04.857-05:002011-05-06T12:59:04.857-05:00Aww, a great myth of motherhood, that we are all r...Aww, a great myth of motherhood, that we are all rejoicing when we find out our baby's gender. Of *course* you will be happy with another boy, of *course* you will love him more than you could imagine, but you are allowed to cry a bit too because, if you thought this baby was a little girl, you essentially lost another daughter that day. And just because you didn't really, just because he was boy from the very beginning.....that grief is very real and, I think, normal. I've cried on that table for the very same reason, regardless of the gender I was having, because I thought it was/wanted the other gender. In retrospect, I was grateful in those instances to find out the gender during pregnancy and have the gift of time to take my moment to grieve so that I could be wholeheartedly, and without reservation, excited upon their arrival. Hang in there mama! If we were all honest with each other like you have been with us, I think we'd find a TON of moms that were disappointed in the moment but no one would ever EVER question our love for the baby we were given.Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06808167129430510625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7042178429812658517.post-63088909985716047632011-05-05T23:44:16.108-05:002011-05-05T23:44:16.108-05:00dear jess, may God bless your heart for being so v...dear jess, may God bless your heart for being so vulnerable in this post. are you amazed at how many tears have been shed over this subject? God understands our hopes, our dreams, even our grief of our shattered dreams .... and He has the perfect plan for each one of us, the plan that will draw us closer to Him. i thank you for being a blessing to all of us. i will continue praying for you.teresahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15335292414877423975noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7042178429812658517.post-74445062680499839992011-05-05T22:37:49.505-05:002011-05-05T22:37:49.505-05:00I have followed your blog for about 18 months now ...I have followed your blog for about 18 months now and just want to say thank you for being so courageous and honest. You are truly an inspiration to all. I was so touched by this last post of the "real" story of your sonogram b/c of your complete honesty and "realness". I think what you are experiencing is totally normal, you should not feel ashamed for your emotions. God knows and feels that empty "piece" in your heart. Trust that He will fill that emptiness in one way or another...maybe you'll be blessed with another daughter(s) in the years to come, or maybe you'll feel that completeness watching the bond between your two boys. Either way, God has a much bigger plan and He will help comfort you. Thank you for sharing that post. I am sure there are many other mothers out there who have felt this same feeling during their sonograms for thousands of reasons. You put your raw emotions out there and you deserve such credit for that! God Bless you!Tristen@blissfulchaoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05326719723735570536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7042178429812658517.post-56064183588492583112011-05-05T22:28:20.182-05:002011-05-05T22:28:20.182-05:00Thanks for your openness. We all have our struggle...Thanks for your openness. We all have our struggles and yours is absolutely normal and understandable. We can not always anticipate when grief will strike us. Congratulations on your precious baby boy!! Levi and this little guy are going to have an amazing relationship that you will love watching! I still pray for your family regularly and will be specific in my prayers for you tonight.JenReecehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17446721495070249421noreply@blogger.com